How To Get Your Ex Back
July 11th, 2009 | 
Author: The break up was painful, and the time apart is excruciating. Your ex is the only thing you are able to think about all day and all night, either your upset and crying or your extremely mad and slamming about. You have been set up on dates by your friends but none of them seem to compare to your ex boyfriend and your sure that he will be the only one ever for you. You have to get him back but first you have to figure out how to get your ex back and you will get him back, no matter what it takes, because you know that if your given just one more chance it will work out this time. However you need a bit of help figuring out how to get your ex back and a bit of support from your friends.
Remember that during the break up and afterwards you most likely said some things you regret. Your friends either quietly agreed with you or added fuel to the fire, but either way, ugly words have more than been said. Oh yes, ugly words have more than been said. It is a good idea to let your friends in on your idea before you try to win back your ex. Explain that you were angry and that you appreciated their support during that terrible time of your life, but that he is truly the man you love and that their continued support is needed.
Because they are your friends and they love you, they will do anything that they possibly can to help you get your ex back. Wrong! At least not in the beginning. They will have a fit and ask if you have lost your mind completely. Just remember that they will do this because they are your friend and don’t want to see you have to go through that ordeal again. After the initial shock, they will come around though.
Now you need to figure out why it is that you even want to get back together with your ex. Are you still in love and miss him, or do you not like to be alone? Or did you have a few bad dates after your breakup and figure you can’t do any better? Are you afraid that he is the only one you will ever love? You have to be very honest with yourself, this is important because the problems that existed when you were dating did not just magically disappear. There is no magic wand to wave to make everything better.
His bad behaviors did not magically clear up when you broke up, so consider everything before moving ahead. If the reason you broke up was because you were in the middle of an argument that is one thing, but if he had a habit or two that you simply could not tolerate, then sadly the cycle will probably repeat itself and you will be hurt all over again. It also never hurts to remember that the grass is always greener on the other side.
Another thing to consider is if your ex is even still single. If the break up was because of infidelity, trying to get him back from the woman he left you for is sad, pathetic and fodder for countless country songs. The old saying “you lose a man the same way you got him” is repeated so often because it is painfully true. If he is unfaithful now he will be unfaithful again and that is something you simply should not put up with. If he is not single then you need to really ask yourself is your looking for love or revenge.
If he is unattached, and you would still like to get him back then you need to understand that nothing has changed. The problems you had before are still going to be there. You need to be willing to put it all out on the table and have honest discussion about them. If your not ready to discuss it then you are not ready to be getting back together with your ex. In order to clear the air, make a list of the problems and see if you are able to compromise.
If the answer is yes, then go slowly, carefully. Act as if he is someone new and relearn about him an what made you fall in love in the first place. This time around you will be more aware of the things that you don’t particularity love. Be sure to talk about them before they start to get bigger. Try not to get caught up in the rush of familiarity, and as always, try to think with your head rather than your heart.
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